I've figured out abusers and manipulators

It took long enough for it all to click, but I've figured them out.

It's all about power. Personal power. Some people just don't have it, and they don't know how to get it. A big case of immaturity, I'm sure, that they can never seem to outgrow.

If a person can never say.. "Boy, did I ever muck up there." and then go into the normal response of "How can I change this for the next time?" then they can never have power.

Even if you are wronged by someone, you always have choices. Your choices may be limited to how you are going to view and respond to what happened, but non-the-less, you have choices.

But, abusers don't. They point their nasty little fingers at everyone around them, even if it was their own fault to begin with. In doing this, they give everyone around them all of their power.

After giving away all of their power, they then have to take it back somehow, and how do they do that? They lie, they cheat, they steal, they manipulate, and they become violent.

Pathetic.